Sergio, can you define the fetishism of feet with 5 adjectives and explain to me the reason for each one?
Surprising
Deviated
Retailer
Imaginative
Generous

The fetipie is a person who surprises because of his taste, deviated from the limiting coitocentric sexuality that society makes us. As Arola Poch says, it is the sex retailer, because it focuses on that detail that is the foot within the person to, in an imaginative and personal way, generously devote to give pleasure to those feet.

In Arola’s blog I read that foot fetishism is one of the most common in men. Does this mean that it is not a common practice among women? If not, why do you think that is the case? In its origin for this taste there are two types of fetishists. On the one hand we are attracted to the feet from very young age, long before practicing this fetish. In this group there are many men and it is very rare to find women. The other group would be people who have tried these adult fetish games and loved them. In this group there are many women, almost all of whom have been curious about our Foot Fetish Corner of the Erotic Salon of Barcelona, ​​have enjoyed so much of having a fetishist at their feet, that they have been hooked on this.

Is foot fetishism always related to submission? It is obvious that the image of a person kneeling at the feet of another evokes a relationship of domination/submission. In many cases the fetipie in turn enjoys the games of submission. But this is not always the case, there are fetishists who are not attracted to these RPGs and simply enjoy this part of the body on equal terms with their game partner.

Do not feel pain with the trampling? Or is it exactly pain that causes pleasure? When you step on heels, you do feel pain. Those who like this form of trampling do tend to be quite masochistic. When a woman weighs less than you step on her bare feet, the pleasure of the tramplist is usually more related to the very situation of feeling under the plants of the person who is on you, to whom all the power is given.

Are there foot fetishists who prefer a little piggyback and careless? Most fetishists do not want feet fresh from the shower, but prefer them fresh from the shoe or boot, with a certain smell on foot and if they have a little dot of sweat, better than better. We like the feet, their smell and taste. There are some people who like to worship especially dirty feet, even black ones after having walked barefoot down the street.

From 1 to 10, how hard is it to do a footjob? What advice would you give to who wants to try it? Doing a good footjob or straw with your feet is not easy. I would give an 8 in difficulty. Apart from having leg abductors in shape, as advice to who wants to masturbate with his feet I would tell him to use lubricant and start gently until the owner of the penis asks otherwise.

There are fetishes of used panties, in fact on the internet there are many portals where they sell them, there are even channels and profiles on social networks dedicated to the fetishists of used panties and feet. Are there any portals for foot fetishists that sell used socks? Yes, there are fetishists who buy socks, stockings, heels, sports shoes, ballet shoes and more they are worn and sweat better is. I do not know if there are specific portals that dedicate themselves to it. But I do know that “muses of the feet” like Arola Poch, are continually receiving offers for their used footwear.

Can a foot fetishist enter a shoe store without a thousand? And in a vintage, can you step on the grapes without throwing the cane to all the people present? Many foot fetishists are not footwear, so they could leave without problems of these stores, unless that they enter to work of testers. On the tread of the grape, every year at the end of summer disappear forever foot fetishists in La Rioja. The owners of the wineries silence these accidents so that they do not know all the causes that make their wines so exquisite.

Now you know what the champagne tastes so much, so this Christmas, besides offering for the good intentions that you will never carry out, do it especially in honor of the foot fetishists!

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Some know her as Anahí, others as Cinnamon, the rest as the one of the sex workshops where instead of the shitty presentation in PowerPoint there can be a person jerking or fingering. Sex educator for adults, Anahí Canela is dedicated to divulge sexual diversity and help people to discover their bodies to reach the fullness of sexual pleasure. In his workshops of course there is a theoretical part, but the most fun and didactic comes with the practical part. For example, at the Punto G workshop and squirting Much better to take a raincoat … I do not know if the concept is clear.

It is said that you will never go to bed without having learned something new, with Anahí Canela before you get to bed you will have run seven times and, when you get to bed, you will have learned things that you weren’t imagine it, or you did not know that were humanly possible.

Anahí, on your business card, says that you are a gender identity specialist. Can you explain what it is? Gender identity is how you feel and, therefore, you would like to show yourself to the world. Normally we are taught the binary genre, which would be male and female; but, in reality, there are many more genders or they can even flow between the two. To be understood, your biological genre comes with your genitals but you maybe do not feel with the same gender, with which you are transgender or maybe simply does not identify you.

On the same card the “polyamory” is mentioned. If you had to explain what polyamory is to a 5-year-old girl, how would you explain it? I would say that love is infinite and that, therefore, you can give it to many people at the same time, not only one person like the basic couple. Since love has no limitations, and we can give it to more than one person.

Can you do the same exercise but explain it to an adult? An adult would tell you that polyamory is a way of relating emotionally and sexually in which there is a possibility that there is more than a sex-affective couple at the same time, and I prefer to say sex-affective because you can have only affection, you can have only sex or you can have both of them. Normally polyamory considers that there are one or more main pairs (never a number greater than three because it is unmanageable). The main couple is the one with whom you have a long-term life project and with which you usually have the common heteronormative-patriarchal couple activities, like going to the movies, introducing your parents, doing the Christmas holidays at home and that kind of thing.

Does polyamory have anything to do with relational anarchy? Relational anarchy goes a little beyond polyamory, since all personal relationships have the same importance, although that does not mean they are same in terms of dedication. In this sense, all sex-affective relationships are the same, therefore there are no main partners.

Leaving relationships aside, let’s talk about sex. Is there a difference between a female orgasm and a female ejaculation? Yes, there is, in fact there is a difference between orgasm, ejaculation and squirt. First I’ll differentiate between orgasm and ejaculation, which is what we use for men and women.
Orgasm is an emotional reaction to a high point of pleasure, which logically has a physical consequence and is visible (the skin, your eyes sparkle, your nipples are hard, etc.) but in itself it is an emotional reaction.
The ejaculation is a physical reaction to a peak moment in a peak of pleasure. But, at the same time, it can be simply a physical reaction of the body without that peak of pleasure, that is, without the orgasm. As it is not the same, it is not that they go together, but they overlap.
When I say squirt I say run and I do not say ejaculation because the female ejaculation is a liquid very similar to water, so to speak, that has enzymes prostatic, for that is comparable to male ejaculation. The prostatic enzymes are created in the female prostate which are called Skene’s glands or also paraurethral glands and are just at the beginning of the urethra on the inside. The ejaculate is secreted by the urethra, it is as if we were pissing. These glands, which are between twenty or thirty, may be clogged or less, so there’s women who do not ejaculate or ejaculation is not perceptible, since if everything is correct there can be up to a glass of water of ejaculation.
The squirt or ejaculation is blood plasma that leaves the walls of the vagina because when a woman is aroused, all the cavities of the vagina are filled with blood beginning with the cavernous cavity of zone G, which is part of the clitoris. What happens is that there is an excess of blood and, one of two, or it expands back up or, as the skin is breathable, the excess goes out there, it filters.
Resumiendo: ejaculation or squirting is a physical reaction; Orgasm is an emotional reaction.

Speaking of squirting , You have a workshop that deals with this topic and that includes a practical part. This means that any woman can squirt, it’s not an exclusive task of the pornstar? LAUGHTER. Of course they can, in fact the verification that any woman can squirt is that all porn actresses squirt. I doubt that there is a specialist doctor who is dedicated to see if these women can or not squirt to get into porn. LAUGHTER.

I guess to do the squirt you have to be organized, I do not know, put a plastic or a waterproof case … and get away from the appliances … right? LAUGHTER. The first few times it is better not to think that you can wet everything, basically because it cuts the roll. The squirt deserves to relax, to be very comfortable, apart from being very excited. When it is usual, what I recommend is to take the ass out of bed, that is, put on the corner of the bed, the table, the sofa or where you are, or if not directly through the window. LAUGHTER And when you finish, you rub. I have never broken any household appliances, but I remember very well a webcam slut-date that was very close to the computer and I wet the screen and everything. Logically my computer turned off, but it did not break, I just had to dry it well. MORE LAUGHTERS

Why are there women who pretend to have an orgasm ? First it has to do with little of feelings, because if I have sex that means that I want to have fun. If we do not like the dust we should stop it, that’s a lot of women, we’ve been taught that what you heat you eat it. Another reason is that we are afraid to tell to our partner that we do not like how he does something to us and especially if we love him, we are afraid to hurt him. I also believe that there are many women who have not explored themselves enough and perhaps are unable to reach orgasm, even by themselves. When it costs a lot you have to address many things, as surely there is a psychological issue behind and ideally ask for help from a professional, because we should all have the ability to feel pleasure.

Do men also do fake orgasm? Safe orgasms and cum shots, too, I’ve seen them fake cumshots …

And how to pretend a male bullfight? The roll to take out the dick, especially if it is with a condom, remove it quickly and throw it so that the other person does not notice. I would say that they do it for the same reason that women do, that is, for not telling the other person that they are not liking it. Another issue apart are men who have difficulty cumging and even to feel orgasms, then because it is so heavy and the other person gets tired, they pretend it’s over and that’s it. All this has a lot to do with what we have been taught, that: sexuality is sex, sex is fucking, fucking is intercourse, intercourse is cumshot and cum is orgasm and they all go together; if something does not happen, or happen wrong, we have not had fun. All this creates the obligation to lie when that does not happen.

Since you mention many times the fact that the sexual education we receive is useless, can you tell me what do you think about the sexual education they give in schools? It’s terrible. Sex education in schools is based on how to put the condom, how not to get pregnant and how to avoid HIV, not even treat all sexually transmitted diseases. They skip a very important part that should come in kindergarten, which is gender identity. Even before they are born it would be correct not to sexualize them, in fact they should be educated in neutral gender so that they define themselves with the gender they feel. Later, at 13, 14 and 16 years old, what we have to teach them is that they communicate effectively and that they understand that any sexual relationship has an emotional effect on you and the other person. They have to learn to respect the person and the emotions and also to understand well how their body works, how the desire is managed and how their genitals are. Then, hopefully when they get 23 years old, they were worrying about whether they are giving themselves all the pleasure they can or if they are giving their sexual partner all the pleasure they can. There is still a lot of work to be done on sex education.

What do people who attend your workshops ask you most? Is there a problem or recurring issue among your assistants? They do not usually make requests. What usually happens and what I love about my work is that people thank me for teaching them something new, to help them overcome some nudity they had and especially the women in these workshops, in the G-spot and squirting , they learn to know their sexuality and their body better.

How do you develop your workshops? All my workshops are theoretical-practical and when I say practical that does not mean that I organize orgies but that are didactic. For exemple if you are going to learn how to make a good feet-massage, it is logical that you are going to do a massage to someone and a teacher will tutor you. In my workshops the same thing happens, it is not that we fuck, but I teach a specific technique and put it into practice, without interest to cause pleasure because my goal is to see how the practice is carried out and how the body reacts physiologically.
In the workshops that talk about female sexuality, I am always the model, with which each and every one of the assistants has to practice with me.

You’re a smart girl, huh … Well, I’m smarter in the second part, which is when I play with all the women. LAUGHTER.
If I do a fellatio and masturbation workshop, usually not men, but women will come. In this case I have a male model that lends itself.

Does this mean that in the squirting workshops you are all together but each one of you is touching yourself? In the morning the theoretical part is done, which is about 4 hours, and in the afternoon there is already sexual physical involvement, then everyone locates the G-spot as I have explained and they try to do the squirting technique, which is a bit complex. The technique of locating Point G and squirt are unique and I have personally developed them. Then I do the same thing one by one to the women, always with their backs to the rest of the people to preserve their privacy and naked from the waist down, they are located first, then me, and if they come together they do it together.

Are there people who stay in the first part? No, because I basically do not allow it. Is that one of the things that make me different is that, because of the practical part. If people come, they break their fears and overcome the shame and there are those who do not, it seems a lack of respect for people who accept to do it. If you do not come to practice, do not attend my workshops.

Do women go alone or as a couple? There is everything, but you also have to know that there are many men who come to learn how to please. The fact that there are fewer women I do not know if it is because they do not give too much importance to their pleasure, that this always comes from patriarchal education, or it is fear of being discovered. Also, notice that there are very few lesbians in my workshops, who should be the most interested, because it is not only their pleasure but that of their sexual partner, but they already know everything. I am generalizing but this is the case and heterosexuals do the same, they think what I am going to tell you about their pleasure. I do not give sex education for adults to teach those who do not know, I try to improve the sexuality of people. For me the important thing is that they learn something and if they do not learn anything, I give them my hand and tell them to attend another free workshop.

Where and when will your next workshop be? I will soon have two workshops in Barcelona: one on Saturday, November 19, from 4:00 pm to 8:00 pm, which is about Male Masturbation and fellatio; the other on November 20, from 11:30 a.m. to 8:30 p.m., and is a G-Spot and Squirt Masterclass.

What would you never do for money? I have it very clear and they have also proposed it several times: zoophilia and crush fetish with animals. The thing about zoofilia was proposed to me from some ads of foot fetish and I was about to denounce the guy.

Forgive the ignorance but, what the hell is the crush fetish? Step on live animals, then kill them. And not only is it done with cockroaches or insects, they even do it with small mammals like rats or hamsters. They are things like that, that unfortunately still exist.

Do you fuck on the first date? Always. LAUGHTER At least I try. LAUGHTER Is that why waste your time, because if you fuck well you have missed a date to fuck, and if you do not understand in bed what do you expect? If I see that I am interested in seeing him again, I prefer to fuck on the first date so I know in what terrain I am playing.

Last question and I leave you alone, you’ve been without squirting for more than half an hour and I suppose you miss it. What do you think about prostitution? What is a very good sex education, even if it is not recognized as such. Prostitutes teach good sex to their clients, at least the good ones. And that is something that society should value. In Greece there was sacred prostitution: the men who returned from the war, who came to kill, rape and spend months away from home, returned head-dresses. So they went to the places where there were sacred prostitutes in order to be reconduced and their women, instead of getting angry, they went to make offerings to those prostitutes to thank them for having healed their husbands. So I do not know to what extent we should learn from that and understand that sometimes they do more good than bad, no matter how much they weigh us. I am a total defender of prostitution.

Do you want to delve into the work of Anahí Canela? Do you want to know more about their workshops and the art of squirting and fellatio? You have it very easy: there is a thing called the Internet, become aware! No, man, that’s a joke, visit his Facebook page or his website www.anahicanela.com and find out what’s going on.

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After a long break, we return with the interviews of Behind the Obscene. So far we had the pleasure of interviewing Ama Monika , BDSM professional and performer of the Erotic Salon of Barcelona Apricots, Carmina , a college prostitute based in Barcelona with very clear ideas about her profession and Meritxell , prostitute mother wanting to change her life. Today we return with a brief talk we made with Yuri, one of the receptionists of one of the local Apricots.

Colombian, 29 years old, Yuri moved to Barcelona with her entire family, 14 years ago. It has a beautiful face, a smile that takes your breath away and a belly that takes away space when you sit next to you. It is not that she is fat, rather the husband ran inside and nothing, now she has a couple of months to give birth to her first daughter.

When I told her I wanted to interview her, I was not sure I could handle something like that. However, she is able to hold a “thing” inside the gut for 9 months without paying rent in return, how rare are people sometimes. To reassure her, the day before the interview, I passed her the questions by mail … then, when she read them, she almost began to give birth by nerves. I prefer not to think about what will happen when she will read what I just wrote about her daughter’s conception …

Yuri, you are one of the managers of the Apricots premises. How would you define your work? Look, at this point I see it as a normal receptionist job. I am in charge of receiving the clients, present the girls and make sure that the client is happy with our facilities and services. Before, it was quite strong for me, now I’m so used to it that I do not see anything strange, it’s a job like any other.

Do you openly tell your environment what you do? I always tell the truth because I think it is a common and ordinary job and I have nothing to hide. If someone does not like it, then it’s not my problem.

Very soon you will be a mother for the first time. How would you react if your oldest daughter decided to be a whore? Now that I work in this area it would be very difficult to hear something like that, and I say it because I know this world and all that it entails. It is a very sacrificial work that can change a person radically. It would be hard for me to hear that from my daughter.

In this sense, what does this world have that makes it so complicated? The first, and most dangerous, is the ambition for money; per second comes the most harmful, vices; Finally, there is the difficulty of getting out of it once you are inside. That’s why I’m not sure how it would take me to have my daughter prostitute herself. Sleeping with many men for money is hard, more than anything because you can find everything and as a parent I want the best for my childrens: to study, to have a good job and this is not the profession you choose to be when you are a child .

What if she told you that that’s what makes her happy? Well … well, We all want the happiness of our children and if that makes her happy, I would only have to accept it.

What do you think of prostitution? I see it well for someone who has a need, has children, has no job or whatever. I also think that it is a profession in which you have to have a lot of maturity and you have to know what is the right moment to say “no more”. If someone chooses this path, it should be momentary because otherwise, I think it would not end well.

Have you ever been proposed as a company girl? Yes, many times.

And have you always been sure to say no? Before entering this sector, I had never heard about prostitution. Now that I know it, I can tell you that I would not be able to be a prostitute. Maybe, at some point, I have crossed my mind in a joke, but from there to get to do it I think I could not. You have to have a lot of courage, it’s not an easy job.

Have you worked in other agency? Yes, I have worked in other agency, but as a manager I was only in a transvestite club here in Barcelona and, to be honest, it is very complicated to work with them. It is very difficult to meet all the needs they have and, in addition, sometimes, with women have a somewhat complicated relationship. For me it was one more experience.

That was your first experience as a manager, and what else? Then I came to Apricots, I’ve been here for 5 years now. Of course, I worked in other houses having other positions.

Even though you had another position, have you noticed any difference between Apricots and the other houses? Yes, Apricots is one of the houses that has more clarity in this whole issue, because we already know that prostitution contains many ugly things … I do not know, there are houses that treat girls badly, that they take away the documentation, that they withhold their money because it is the house that charges the client and they are paid after a week, and more things. So I think Apricots is one of the most ethical and open houses in which girls can work; here they are unconcerned.

Your work takes you to spend a lot of time with the escorts that frequent the locals. Has any friendship emerged with any of them? Yes, even one of the girls in Apricots is my best friend. In general the relationship with them is good, there are many girls who trust me, who tell me their things and ask for advice; as there are also others that are more distant, since they see me as the one in charge and prefer to maintain distances. I have to try to be as neutral as possible and my private things always have to stay out of my work. I just have to focus on them! The truth is that sometimes comes a time when it is difficult to keep the distance, but this happens in many jobs with colleagues or customers, right?

Regarding your friend who prostitutes herself, have you tried to convince her to change her profession? Yes, many times. I always tell her that she is very young, that she would have to enjoy her youth and that she decides to get out of this. I hope it does not take long to do it, because life can offer many more things, the only thing is to really want to make a change.

And what does she says? She says yes, she will try to do it but, as I told you, once you enter this is very difficult to leave … is that what they earn today they spend it and think that tomorrow they recover it. It’s like a vicious circle.

From your perspective, how do you see the relationship that girls have with each other? Are friendships created or is there only competition? In this world it is very difficult to have a friendship: we are in the fucking and all are going for your money or, if not, end up arguing for a client, or because it works more than the other or has taken more tips or a thousand more stories. I think there are very few who are truly friends. It is also true that in Apricots the atmosphere is very good and relaxed. Here the girls are more companions, they lend themselves clothes and when a new girl arrives they explain and help her; in that sense here they are very collaborative and friendly.

Do you feel happy with what you do? Yes, I feel very happy. I also do not see it as a long-term job, I would not like to continue as an elderly lady in charge. Now I have been working in Apricots for 5 years and what I would like, maybe, would be to have a different position; always on Apricots because they treat me very well.

Is there anything else you want to add? I would like to tell the girls that are meditating to enter the world or that they do not know it, that they take their time to think it over and evaluate the pros and cons. The truth is that it is not as tremendous as they paint it, but it is not like staying. If you decide to take the step, my advice is to take it as something momentary and, most importantly, never to stop using your head.

When I told her that this was the last question, I see that Yuri’s face relaxes and the breathing returns to normal. At the moment it seems that it will not give birth in front of me, which is a good thing because I have a new shirt and I do not want to stain it. Since I do not have any more questions, I can close the interview. Despite this, if you have stayed with the desire to know more about Yuri and her work, you can leave a comment to the post and we will gladly answer you.

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The second installment of Behind the Obscene arrives, the section dedicated to interviews with company girls. If the previous time it was the turn of Meritxell , today it’s the turn of Carmina, a Very nice Mexican girl who did not have any problem in being interviewed.

Carmina received me at the local of Còrsega very excited for the interview, or that it was me Ana Pastor. She wore a very sophisticated striped dress, some ballerinas, her hair pulled back and no makeup. To compensate for her sober look Sofia was with an another girl who wanted to attend our meeting because “I’m excited,” she said, wearing a set of electric blue lingerie that left no room for imagination, but a good cold. So the three of us went to room number 4, we sat on the bed and started with the questions:

Tell us a little about yourself, starting with your provenance. Where are you from? Tijuana, Mexico.

How long have you been in Spain and how much on Apricots? 9 months in Spain and about 7 in Apricots.

Why did you come to Spain? First I came to study, and after two months of being here I started working as a company girl.

And with your studies what happened, are you still enrolled or not anymore? The course is over and now we have to wait for the official title.

What were you studying? Travel journalism.

From journalism to escort service. What made you change your career so radically? A little out of curiosity and morbid, a little bit for the money, and thus be able to pay the tuition fees of the university. In my country I had a friend who started doing escort services and in the end I decided to try it by myself. When I came to Spain I searched on Internet and found an agency, where I stayed for a week. There, they told me about Apricots, and here I am. Over time you realize that this is a job, like going to an office. What happens is that after you get used to winning certain amounts of money …

I understand that it’s because of the money you stay here. Is it really easy money? Well yes, but also because if the client asks for a service that you do not give, you are not obligated to go with it, this makes it much easier for you. What happens is that sometimes there is no feeling between you and the person and here it becomes harder. Also you have to know that not all services are for fucking.

With what kind of men does the situation become more difficult, with elders, young people or age does it matter? No that does not matter. Maybe it happens more with the young people, who came drunk. Older people come more for love, to vent, to talk, or because they feel lonely. For example, one of the most complicated situations is when a client asks you to fuck without a condom; but I will never do that at work. Other cases are less uncomfortable, like the men who come just to tell friends, and others to take use you until the last minute …

Good but in an hour, how many times can you “repeat”? In an hour there are usually two relationships, but sometimes it stays in one. Many times, after cumming, what you want is a massage instead of a second time, or even talking for a while …

And what are you talking about? First I ask where they are from, and then what they do, what they work … and if they are tourists it is even easier because you talk about Barcelona, ​​ask them if they have visited such a place, if they went to this restaurant. And then it’s them who start asking you questions …

Do you get to enjoy with your customers? Sometimes yes and sometimes no. Then I have to pretend, as we often do all women. I have been with handsome clients but they were unbearable. For example, once came two very handsome guys who wanted to be with me at the same time, for 45 minutes, paying only half an hour and also as if they were one person. There was no way for them to understand that this service is paid double. In the end, they also took another girl, but as they had been stung by how the thing had gone, they got very aggressive and kept telling us that we are slut and other bad things. In that case I had a bad time and all I wanted was for the time to end and never see them again. In general, my joy has nothing to do with his physical appearance, maybe he is not so graceful but he is a good client, because he is polite and calm, then I relax and enjoy …

What about your sexual relationships in your private life? Just the other day Sofia told me that one day we would get tired of having so much sex. But I don’t think so, because if you like someone, you disconnect from your work and the only thing you have left is to enjoy that person. So in my personal life I still enjoy sex.

What do you like most about being a company girl? And what less? Here at Apricots, I like the fact that I earn a good money, and that there is a good atmosphere and a lot of camaraderie among the girls. There is also flexibility for many things and they do not force you to do something you do not want. They also take care of you when you go out, they know where you are going and with whom, that gives you a lot of peace of mind. What I like the least, is that sometimes when all we work at the same time, there is a lot of scandal and noise. The thing is that we do not have the same schedule, you may be resting and the others may wake you up after having finished a service. We could define them “henhouse problems”, which is the same thing that happens when you share a flat with other people, but it is not something that represents a real problem. And what I like least about the profession of escort are impolite clients, those who believe that in an hour they can ask for all the services they want without paying for them, or that they treat you in a disrespectful way because they forget that first of all we are Human.

What advice would you give to those who want to follow your path? Remind her that this work is not eternal, that there are seasons better than others and that customers also get tired of always seeing the same faces. So even if you think you make easy money, you have to use your head and be smart when it comes to managing your money, you have to be careful with your expenses and be able to see beyond this work. It would not make sense to work hard for many years to keep anything. Another thing I would advise is that to never do something that you do not want to do.

To the question “Do you have any funny anecdote to tell us?” , as Carmina did not have any, Sofia took over: “Once a client asked me to dance for him, the funny thing is that he started dancing with me, even imitating my movements and gestures. It was as if he wanted to look like me. In the end it was him to dance for me, in fact it looked more like a dance class than an escort service. And of course, there was no sex. “

It was just to finish answering that the manager called Sofia because a client asked about her. “Put something on, you’re going to catch cold,” I said! Sofia laughed and said goodbye telling me “Now I’m going to warm up well, do not worry”. And so I continued my interview with Carmina:

Does it bother you if they call you a bitch? It depends on the context in which they tell me. For example, if they tell you with the desire to bother, it is obvious that I do not like it, or also when a client tells you that because he is paying you , he has the right to treat you as he likes. But, in general, it does not bother me. In addition, between us we tell it even during normal sex “You are a little whore” and nothing happens, we laugh and that’s it.

What do you think of street prostitution? Starting from the fact that everyone can do what they want with their life, and that you are not a better person because you work with agency. For me street prostitution is very risky and even dangerous. But if I see it as badly morally? of course not. It’s more of a safety issue, and we know that the street is not the quietest place in the world.

Being able to go back, would you follow the same path? If not, why? Maybe not, but above all because it is heavy, in the sense that you sleep little, you eat badly and in general the rhythms of life are not balanced. At the same time I would do it again, because there are many good things that have happened to me thanks to this profession and that they would not have happened doing something else. What I have clear is that I would not like to dedicate myself to this for a long time, I prefer to see it as something transitory. But I regret nothing because I have really lived things that have been worthwhile.

Imagine that when you arrived from Mexico you had on the one hand a normal job offer, let’s call it like that, and on the other the possibility of being a company girl, which we have already said is a very hard and risky job, although it allows you to earn much more than any other job. If you had to choose between one option or another, what would be your choice? If it were a normal job, it would have to be something that I like very much, even if I won a quarter of what I earn as an escort.

And what would that job be? Since you have studied travel journalism, would you like to be a reporter or do something related to your studies? I would like more to be a scriptwriter of television programs.

Have you ever tried it? In my country I did it and although they paid me very badly, it was very fun and I had a good time. Here, in Spain, I never started looking for a scriptwriter job.

Do you have a partner? If not, would you dare to tell him what you do? I do not have a partner so I do not have to say anything. And if I had, maybe I would tell him, but I would have to find the most appropriate time to tell him something like that. I do not think any man is willing to accept that you go with other men, and above for money.

Speaking of money, is there something you would never do for money? There are things that I do charge an extra but sometimes when they come with the arrogance of “I have the money and I do with you whatever I want” then NO. I would never accept the humiliation for money. Not having sex without a condom, or other things that could put my health at risk.

This was my last question. I kept my notebook and stayed for a while to chat with her, both very comfortable lying on the bed. Carmina did not stop smiling and the feeling she left me was that of being a person with her head on her shoulders and able to see the positive side of things at every moment. Something that, unfortunately, most people forget to do. Thank you Carmina for reminding me how important it is to smile at life, always.

La entrada Behind the Obscene: Carmina, the escort with an university degree se publicó primero en Apricots Blog.

We continue with the second part of the interview with Ama Monika. If you missed the first part, click here and find out what you told us last week.

Can you explain to me how many different practices are in BDSM? What is known as BDSM is a wide range of games. Any object can be a fetish. There are those who like breasts, to whom prefer feet; there are fetishists of smoking women, that is to say, it excites them to see a woman smoking and to have the smoke on them. There are those who love simply heels, boots, stockings, navel, ass, thongs, colors, sounds, senses. There are people who like to have their faces covered or closed or listen to anything. There are those who like to play to be tied, to make several positions and then, when you untie it, you see that it has all the pants stained. This is called rubbing masturbation. When trying to get free, he masturbates.

Can we know why you never have sex with your clients? Never YES!. When you have sex, as it happened to me at the beginning, then they do not come back anymore. A submissive or slave of truth never practices sex with his mistress, unless they are sexual slaves, that already changes and is something else.

If a woman asked you to be her teacher, would you? Yes, and the first thing I would say would be “Never get off your panties!”. There are not many women who can really do it, in the end they end up yielding and saying “what a pain”. I also felt that way, but then I thought “Look how you are enjoying”.

Is there anything you would never do to a slave? Look, I do not like scat, but I did it. I wanted to try it with a person of confidence, it was a very strong experience. But I’m telling you, I prefer to do that, even if I do not like it, than to sleep with men. On the BDSM scale, I do not know exactly what I would never do, but for example I would be very angry about making cuts. I would not do that because I’m not experienced, I would not do anything that I do not know how to do perfectly and that would pose a risk to the submissive. Do not get involved in what you do not know and less in this, because it can be very dangerous. On the other hand I do not care, I like to experiment and push my limits.

And what do you like the most? I really like playing with fire, but it’s very dangerous. It is not about burning the person, it is about burying a person in wax. The wax is hot as soup, at 45º. It is heated in a large pot, in a bain-marie, and then put on it. I usually make a candle from his penis and fire it to the limit. I have fun with this as a bad girl.

Do you feel pleasure when you do these things? Yes, and I have come to have mental orgasms. When I’m concentrated with a slave and you’re having a super good session, it’s like a union that makes me feel like I’m putting needles, but I see that he’s enjoying himself, that he’s erect and is all the time “My Mistress, my Mistress; You are adorable “I tell you that it is tremendous. Or with women, because I’ve also had women, I put on my penis and I’ve totally transformed myself. The male I carry inside comes out. I take them by the hair, I raise them and I throw them …

But that’s already sexual BDSM, right? No, because there is no contact with the skin. There I simply have a harness, she does not even touch me.

Is the keyword always the same or is it changing? It’s always the same, I’ve been with “fresa” for 15 years.

Do you plan to update it? No, not at all, because that’s how they already know me. When a person enters the study for the first time, for me he is neither a slave nor anything. It is important that you know a bit how the mistress acts, so if the say “I kneel, my Lady,”I say “No, Stand up”. First we talk and when I tell you to kneel you already become mine; but for the moment I have to know you. ” It is that before we are human. You need to tell me first what your limitations are, if you have allergies, if you have had any stroke … all this is very important.

Do you have them sign a sheet in which they declare themselves responsible for anything that might happen? When they are very extreme sessions, yes, or if I do not record them. It’s for my good too, because if you can not go to the police and you can invent anything and they put you in a mess. You have to keep your backs.

Do slaves usually have more than one mistress or are they faithful to it? That depend on you, if you leave psychological traces. You have to leave some intrigue in your head. If you want them to come back you have to know how to hook them and leave them something that asks them to come back. One of my slaves, for example, now that he has been with me for 5 years, wants me to put a dog chip on him. Yes now, we have a contract for life. However, there is always someone who likes to peck here and there, it’s clear.

Do the slaves who make the shows with you receive an economic reward? Not at all. They even help to pay for the highway, as the food. They have their business, this is something that they like, they do it for pleasure. And besides, I do not admit silly slaves, I like those with personality, people who have their work and their feet on the ground, who know that this is a game and do not take it further. And even if they are slaves of mine more than 5 years ago, if they want a private session they have to pay for it. I do not have badly used slaves, that’s a whim of them, so if you want something you have to pay for it because I also have other things to do.

And those who have been with you since your inception, those who taught you to be Ama Monika, what is your relationship with them? For me certain people are no longer my submissive, they are my guardian angels, they are my life, because what they have done for me, nobody does. Submissives and slaves who have been with you for some time must know how to value everything they do for you, and if at any given time they need you, you do the same for them, and that is not stooping or anything like that.

There’s the famous human side we talked about before … Yes, there it is. You see I still have some humanity left! * laughs *

You’ve talked about slaves and submissives. What is the difference between one and the other? There are many roles in the BDSM. For example, the slave is like a rebel, who can escape when he wants but does not because he respects that moment. They like whips and they want always more. With the rebellious slaves you must know how to deal with them, they are the ones that can bounce the most towards you, there you have to be very firm. The submissive is more like a puppy, a chihuahua. A submissive can simply be an obedient submissive, picks up your clothes, cleanses you, and does not pull on the subject of pain or punishment. Then there is the masochist who enjoys pain, or rather, with what people may consider pain. And then the sadist, who is the one who provides that pain. But the masochist is sadistic in and of itself because he also likes to give, hence sadomasochist.

And you are loving … Yes, I am a lover, they put that to me and I like it. Ama Monika, with K.

Do you think that one day you will leave this BDSM? No, never, could not. I have met my big family here and this gives me a lot of freedom.

When you do not work, that is, you are not Ama Monika but Maria, what are you doing? Well I am a normal woman, I dedicate myself to my flat, I make the purchase, I go to gym …

Is there anything else you want to add, something essential about you that we need to know? That I am a very accessible woman, I do not have the syndrome of deification, because there are many women who are deified, they believe that everyone has to kneel at their feet. I like to be left alone, ride a bike , do my exercises … come on, I’m very normal. Oh, and I do not like slaves at all. I said goodbye to her knowing that in a few minutes I would go back up on stage to perform one of her performances. “We’ve been around for a long time, my slaves will be worried,” she told me. If her slaves were worried, I do not know how my mother could have been knowing that I was sitting next to a woman who was about to bathe a human being in hot wax. In short, each one to his own, thank you very much for your precious time, Ama Monika!

La entrada Revelations of a BDSM’s Mistress. Part II se publicó primero en Apricots Blog.

The truth is that the BDSM universe had always aroused a lot of curiosity in me, but it had never occurred to me to go deeper into the subject, why? And putting it in the CV did not help me either! Until one day I had the chance to interview Ama Monika , one of the most important and influential personalities in the sector. I stayed with her in the Erotic Salon of Barcelona Apricots and, I have to be honest, the fact of being alone with her scared me a bit. Mistress Monika imposes a lot, it will be because she does not give so much the impression of being a horny or prankster woman, or it will be because of the leather garments, the long heels and the whips she wears as if they were any fashion accessories. Be that as it may, he gave me a lot of respect. However, as often happens, first impressions are deceptive.

I wanted to be clear with her from the minute zero “I am a total inexperienced in BDSM, you will have to explain things to me as if I were a silly girl”. It was at that moment that I saw her smile for the first time, and with her I understood that in front of me was not a BDSM mistress but a woman endowed with feelings and ability to empathize. Come on, a normal human being. “Well, I will not hit any whiplash,” I thought.

The first question was not asked by me, but by her: “When are you going to publish the interview?”. Since then it has been more than a month and now, finally, here are those 50 minutes of conversation written in black on white.

Ama Monika, how long have you been working in BDSM? I have been working and collaborating for 10 years in the Erotic Festival of Barcelona, ​​and 15 years working as a professional in the sector.

Have you always been Ama? I’ll be very sincere: I started with a money issue. I had to pay the mortgage and I had no choice but to get in as a young lady, which was not my way with my character. Life wanted me to find an older woman with alcohol problems who was a mistress and who proposed to answer the phone and act as if she were his submissive. Back then I had no idea what all this was about. He answered the phone saying “My lady is at this moment with a slave” and it was a lie, she was more drunk than anything else. Until one day I said to myself “Well, why not trying it on my own?” And so I have done it. I started like that, without anyone explaining anything to me, in fact I mixed sex with domination. I was learning thanks to the submissive people who were teaching me. Then he called me Patricia and they told me “Look, you have to do this or that”. I did not pick up a book until after 5 years. That is, I learned alone and with my slaves, who in fact, after 15 years, are still with me.

That is, from the first moment, even if you did not have any kind of knowledge, you have been loved. Have you never been a slave? No, I have never become a slave. BDSM has made me find myself, to discover my character and my true way of being. When the people who knew me began to find out, I had a lot of moves and contempt, but over time it started to give me the same. From there I began to open the doors of the sites, I met super smart people, I discovered that this world is very funny, it has a wide range of games and apart it gave me an impressive freedom. That is, with BDSM, I am myself.

What is the relationship with your slaves offstage? When I met you the first time, you went with two of your slaves … Yes, and one of them is my partner.

And as a couple do you behave with the same dynamics of BDSM? No, it would not be healthy and things would get very confused. When there is a relationship of time it is already like a marriage. I think that is the same for woman and for the man. Once clear that we play, also has given me some spanking like any couple, and if we feel like disguise, we do sex or whatever, but with others is different.

How is it different? I have a slave, for 5 years, with whom I have never had or will have any kind of sexual relationship. Our relationship is a 24/7. He sees me as an unattainable Goddess to whom he has to respect and obey at all times. If I undressed, or just taught a breast, all that respect, desire that feels for me would vanish without more, and would become a woman of the bunch. With my partner I am a Goddess turned into a woman. Now I will tell you a curious anecdote about my submissive. Sometimes he speaks untimely, or asks too much, being with it what is understood as “a passive master”. Well, today he was a bit curious about the food because he got ahead of me offering him the remains of food that I had.

Do you never feel guilty or do you feel sorry? I felt sorry at the beginning, and you know what happened? That it did not achieve anything. Grief is the worst thing you can show in front of a slave, as well as fear. People do not know it but there are slaves who can turn against you, as you do not know how to dominate and speak with coherence, you can be bounced back. I’ve taken several scares that I’ve had to defend myself on different occasions …

Can you tell me some of these events? One, for example, raised my hand, but I was able to stop him and say: But what are you doing? I do not raise my hand or Christ. ” Then I sent him on his knees, I stepped on his head and put his heel in his ears saying “You will receive the biggest beating of your life”. I gave him the whip in the ass and then I ordered him to pull down his pants, make a straw, run on the floor and lick everything. When he finished, I told him to get off his knees with his pants down to the door and goodbye. And he told me “You are a very good mistress”. There was another, when I already stressed as a mistress, who raised my hands twice and told me that he also liked to hit, so I said “What do you want, what’s good for you from behind?”. Well, I caught him, I put him on all fours, I took out a dildo, a spit without lubricant or anything, and inside dry, and when I finished I said “Go!”. What I want to tell you with all this, is that if a woman wants to lend herself as a mistress, she has to have character, a lot of coolness and be very careful, either with what you do with the submissive, or with certain people.

Do not you think you have lost a bit of humanity? No, I am very judicious. I have a lot of humanity, I cry when I see bad things that really happen in life. I have known what sadistic people are and what has hurt me a lot. I have also suffered psychological harassment. And also, I have suffered some slaps, I know what it is and I do not like it, but all this has lifted me up. I know what submissives want and I’m very careful. If I had lost humanity I would have done a lot of barbarities, they have asked me for everything …

Like what? The biggest barbarity was that of a man who wanted to be castrated. We had a session of about two hours of very strong genital sado, but he has constantly thinking that he wanted to be castrated. Then one day, tired of always hearing the same thing, I told him I was going to bring a doctor who was going to do it. I had planned to spend a lesson, I told him that from that moment there was not going to be any key word, that he was going to give him everything he was asking for and there would be no going back. Well, he was scared! I said “It will be your birthday: then first we are going to make a great party and I am going to bring a young lady who is going to fuck like crazy. I want you to stay empty. ” Of course it was all fake, it was just a plot I was riding. My intention was to bring a German friend who pretended to be the doctor, to gibe him pills to sleep him and then half stunned to see the doctor and make a mess. I wanted him to wake up in the morning with tweezers in his testicles so he would believe that it was the stitches and to give him an omelet that was supposedly made from what we had taken from him. But when I told him it will cost 5,000 euros, it was cracked and nothing was done.

Do your customers tend to have a lot of purchasing power? There is everything, everyone likes this. There are those who can afford it and who can not. Some people do “brico-sado” because they can not allow anything else. When I started working on this, all the tools were made by me. My first whip was a hammer handle and a belt.

And now you have an experience? Now I have an experience that hallucinates …

If I remember correctly, you’ve been on many TV shows, right? Yes, I’ve been out in “7 days, 7 nights”, in “Anonymous lives”, in “Todo Madrid”, in “Callejeros”, in “La Noria”, in “La Mesa Redonda” and in many more programs than right now I do not remember.

And how did you get all this notoriety? First thanks to my submissive, and then for newspaper ads. Then I met the owner of Tacones Altos and with him I started to learn about erotic festivals, and Mistress Monic was the one who gave me the step.

So that’s why you became Ama Monika? No, it’s not that. This name was put among the submissive, they decided for it.

Keep reading the interview here.

La entrada Revelations of a BDSM’s Mistress. Part I se publicó primero en Apricots Blog.

Behind the Obscene is the new section of the Apricots blog. It is a space in which the girls of company are revealed through small interviews. With Behind the Obscene we will discover secrets, anecdotes and curiosities about their experiences in this sector, but we will also try to get to know girls beyond their profession.

Behind the Obscene proposes to be a place of conversation where there are neither masks nor false truths. We want to tell on the one hand how the girls are behind the obscene scenario in which they usually act, on the other hand to show that often the attribution of the adjective “obscene” is the result of a confused and superficial knowledge of things.

Everyone has a story to tell, and we have many.

It was a Wednesday morning when I went to Corséga. I had not met any of the girls, but I went there sure that at least one of them would have been willing to be interviewed. When I arrived, the first thing I did was to explain to the person in charge the reason for my visit. She liked the interview and she said “Propose it to the girls”.

I tried to do it but the ones that were there were enjoying a break, so they did not pay much attention to me, they did not want to know anything about “scrolls”. After those first moments of total indifference to me. I got the attention of the girls and clarify that I had no bad intentions, that I just wanted to chat with them and get to know them a little better. In the end, I do not know if it is because of pity for me or to leave them alone, they advised me to talk to Meritxell, because they said that she “has a lot of talk and charm”. I asked Meritxell if she wanted to and after a few moments of indecision, she finally agreed to talk with me for a while.

What follows is what she told me:

Tell us a little about yourself, Meritxell, starting with your provenance. Where are you from? I’m from South America but I prefer not to specify exactly where.

How long have you been in Spain and how much in Apricots? I’ve been in Spain for 6 years and since 1 month in Apricots.

Why Apricots and not another escort agency? In this agency I feel comfortable because I am not obliged to do anything I do not want, here you are free, you do not have obligations as in other places. I was also working in my apartment, but here (in Apricots) I feel much calmer and protected. And also because the clientele is different; here many tourists come and the treatment is very pleasant, they are very respectful.

How long have you been in this profession? 5 years.

What do you like most about being a company girl? And what less? I do not like it very much, I do it mainly for the money. My intention is to change my job. In my country I studied, but I still have to validate the title.

So what made you dedicate yourself to escort services? When I arrived in Barcelona I had a baby and I was alone; between the apartment, child care, immigration lawyer and other expenses. Then I had to earn much more than I would have earned in a normal job, so that was my only option, especially when I knew that it’s possible to work during the day. With the schedules that I organize now, I can dedicate time to my son and I have all the flexibility I need.

Being able to go back, would you follow the same path? If not, why? No. First because I do not like it, and secondly because in reality when I arrived here I did not do things well. I had to come with all the papers in order because I already knew that I was coming to stay. Nor did I worry about studying Catalan and validating my degree, I let time pass and I have no excuse. Going back, I would have done everything differently. Now I have set a goal, a time limit. I want to continue in this one more year to keep enough money to be calm with my son. A few years ago things were going better in this sector, I made a lot of money a month and I did not take advantage of it.

How did you spend so much money per month? There are people who do not earn as much in a year … I know, the problem is that the more you earn the more you spend. I had a very high standard of living, I bought a lot of clothes, I lived in a huge flat in the center with an employee, I had a driver that took me to the exits to the hotels , I sent money to my daughters in my country and to the people of my neighborhood who knew that I was in need. Like 100 euros to this one, 100 to the another one and the money ran out. Also, I went to clubs every night, because it was my way of escaping from reality, as if to forget everything for a while. I think if I did not have the child I would continue with that crazy life …

In other words, if you did not have the child you would not like to leave this one year from now as you mentioned before? I think it’s time to get out of all this, to save and change your life. I think all this has happened to me so that I understand that I do not have to live like this. My child has been my savior.

Does your family know what you do? My mother is the only one who knows what I do, I told her about the same thing that my former partner did, in case one day something happens to me that they know where to look for me. I have 6 more sisters, they do not know what I do because they are Christian. However, I think they suspect it because a cleaning woman here in Spain does not earn that much. The only thing they tell me are some hints like: “If we could live well in our country, you can too. You also studied, do not look for the easy way “.

Your mother how did you accept the fact that you dedicate yourself to this? She has not accepted it, we never talk about this. She knows it just in case. She never want to take money from me even she is in need, she never accept, because it would be like helping me to continue with this profession. She does not ask me anything, rather she is telling me all the time that she is looking for a job for me, and that her boss has a management company and he is ready to help me.

Do you have any funny anecdotes to tell us? During pregnancy I worked for 8 months as a masseuse, because there are people that their fetish is pregnant women and that give them a lot of morbid, but I never had sex while pregnant. The customers gift me a lot of clothes for the baby, chocolates and they left me very good tips. Come on, the part where I had the most fun was during pregnancy because I did not fuck and I earned more. When I had the child, many clients had made the calculation of when I had given birth and they called me to see if I had breast milk to give them. The truth is that the strangest things happen to me when I was working alone in my apartment, here in Apricots everything is normal.

Have you ever fallen in love with a client? No, and the truth is that I do not understand how a man who knows that you are working in this sector can love you. I know many girls that has happened to them, but I think there comes a time when they’re going to throw you. For example, I separated from my son’s father because he did not assimilate my condition, and then I was only a masseuse. Nowadays he keeps telling me that he can not accept it because he thinks that if I get out of this, one day he could go back to work on the same thing and he is right, if the economic situation requires it, I would do it again. That is why I prefer to be alone, first because I do not feel bad about the couple I am with, and then because I do not see a man accepting this. It is hard to find someone with an open mind that is capable of accepting us as we are.

When you finish this profession, there will come a time when you will meet a man outside of this environment. Will you be honest with him and tell him about your past? Yes, I will tell him the truth. And do you know why? Because you can always find someone who knows, either because he has seen you in a photo, video, etc, so I prefer to tell him before that someone else tell him. Better always go with the truth ahead.

Does it bother you if they call you a bitch? Yes, for me the bitches are the ones who are in the street, in a corner and have pimp. We do not have a pimp here, we’re free. The girls who are in the street should try to work inside agencies to see the security they can have.

What do you think of street prostitution? I think that when you are on the street there are many policemen, you can approach anyone and ask for help. Here in Spain they help you a lot, if you do not have papers and someone is exploiting you, they give you support and propose you outings. Personally they have to regulate prostitution to prevent girls from being in the street; this way they would work in a safe environment and could do with their body what they want and be their own owners. There are very nice women on the street and I think “do not tell me you could not work alone, you need to be in a corner like that”, they do not have to have a pimp, they could work alone or be in quiet places like Apricots. For example, my former partner is very macho, but I said to him: “I work and I support myself” why do you have to tell me if I can or can not leave, where I go and with whom, then no. If you do not like how I am, you leave, but do not tell me how I have to be, what I have to do or how I have to dress.

Would you live in your country again? When I will have a house, yes. At the moment I do not want to return for my son, there is a lot of crime there. I want him to grow up here, to be educated in Spain. In addition, in my country I have two other daughters, who are now older. The first I had when I was very young, but I was very excited to have it. But the little one, the last one, was an unexpected surprise.

Are you in favor of abortion? Neither in favor nor against. I think it’s bad to do it but there are times when there is no other solution. I think that bringing a child to the world if you can not keep it is a selfish person.

Have you worked in other Spanish cities? What are the difference with Barcelona? Yes, I worked in Ibiza. There the prices tend to be higher because the work is very seasonal and then there is nothing.

And did you also work in other countries? If yes, what changes with respect to Spain? Yes, I worked in France, in Paris. There you also earn more, customers do not demand anything from you, they are more respectful people. There I worked a lot because the French like blondes, chiquititas and thin like me. And of course, because prostitution is illegal there.

Do you speak French? No, I just practice it * laughs * … now I’m studying it because I have a lot of French client and I’d like to have more complete conversations with them.

Is the sex you practice different when you do not charge? Yes. Although when I do as work, I only do it with who I want, but if I sleep with someone to whom I am fond of course it’s different. Sex made with love is always something else. Although I must admit that in the end it is skin with skin and you can not go against your senses.

What would you not do for money? Take drugs, I have this very clear. It would be the last straw, I was a drug addict * many laughs * .

La entrada Behind the Obscene: Meritxell, prostitute and mother se publicó primero en Apricots Blog.